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April 24, 2011

Cik adik kena paksa join organisasi ke?

Nak gelak besar-besar dekat tajuk di atas....Kakakakakakaka!

Stop being annoying Xiet!

Ok la, takmo bebel panjang, hangpa tgk la si MatLuthfi ni bebel sorang2.... Mamat ni besh, Anwar Hadi pun Besh. Tapi Anuar Sajari paling best OK!...Apa, cikgu Shida? erm....erm.... saya tak layan lawak slapstik mcm cikgu shida (sorry cikgu shida, saya mmg kurang reseptor gelak sikit) tp cikgu shida mmg rock....teringin nak belajar dengan cikgu mcm cikgu shida. Mesti kelas sgt havoc and best...

OK OK... jom layan video ni!

P/S: Kepada kawan2 undergrad yg anda tau siapa anda.... amacam, korang terasa tak tgk video ni? Ada rasa nak tergelakkan diri sendiri tak? Hehehe... Tapi apapun, organisasi la yg mendekatkan dan membina ukhuwah kita kan. Thankful for that (eh eh, emo lak)

Xiet Enigma
Shah Alam

April 21, 2011

To wear the hijab or Not?

Baru-baru ni Xiet ada dapat soalan daripada seorang rakan maya yg belum pernah Xiet jumpa secara live. Sister ni ada tanya satu soalan yang Xiet rasa menarik dan terpanggil untuk berkongsi soalan dan jawapannya di sini... Erm, kalau korang ada tambahan jawapan or komen or idea or pape je lah, sila lah jgn malu utk share ye.


As you know, I was a part time model and now still working in the entertainment industry. I have great interest in changing my appearance, particularly on covering my hair. The thing is I’m not very sure of the decision I’m making and it changes periodically. I’d tried wearing the veil but my friends laugh at me and criticized my passé look, as that’s what they claimed.  I wish I am like my sister, who’d converted later but is more knowledgeable and stronger than me…. I need your opinion Sis.

Salam Sis,
Pardon my poor English, but I hope you can still understand my points (^_^)
I understand your situation in which wearing the hijab (veil) is quite wacky in your surroundings. Having the intention to wearing the hijab is a good thing already. It means you have Imaan (faith) in your heart. Alhamdulillah Sis, Allah has given His Guidance upon you. You are as strong as your sister, and both of you are strong in your own respective ways.

What and How to cover?

Allah the Almighty has taught us the way to covering our body. As stated in the Al-Quran:
 "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their head covers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success” [An-Nur, 24:31]

As Muslim Women, we can wear any clothes, as long as it’s in accordance to what Allah has said in the Quran. So Sis, it’s time to unleash you creativity! You can still look gorgeous though you wear saggy dress and cover your head and bosom.

The cloth of Taqwaa

In Islam, we are not judged by gender, race, and clothes. Allah judges us by Taqwa. The best clothes are the ones which portray our modesty and not for showing off purposes. I love to share one beautiful Hadeeth, narrated by Umar Al-Khattab, from Prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h

"Actions are (judged) by motives (niyyah), so each man will have what he intended. Thus, he whose migration (hijrah) was to Allah and His Messenger, his migration is to Allah and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated." [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

By all means, they must compliance with the Islamic requirement and jurisprudence (Sharee’ah). As long as it is congruent with the sharee’ah perspective, there is no restriction on what kind of fashion we want to choose for ourselves.

I am flabbergasted by the modern muslim women whom have great taste in fashion, yet resolutely uphold their belief and principle with no compromise. You can get inspiration from the bohemian style (it’s my favourite), Arabian fashion, or even vintage! Those modes (and a lot more) can be compatible with the hijab. You can even create your own style. Well, apparently you know fashion far better than me right? Right (",). Anyway, some of your present clothes may suitable to be wear with the hijab so you don’t have to discard them.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

No matter what you wear, be it stylish or just moderate, some people may consider you outdated and conservative just because you are wearing the hijab. Some people are simply oppressive. They love to be judgmental. They don’t respect the decision you made for yourself, so they don’t respect you as human being. So just screw them. Ignore what they think about you.

I understand the argument about how Islam degrading women through some issues, including the hijab issue.  The biggest claim is Islam degrades women by putting such criteria to what a muslim woman should wear and that has signified to oppressing the muslim women.

But people, isn’t it an irony to rather claim that it is liberating to judge a woman by the size of her bust or length of her legs?

And what kind of liberty that endorse sexual temptation upon women, especially when it is used for commercial purposes?  

You are beautiful sister (remember you were a model?). Being beautiful doesn’t mean you have to reveal your skin, or wear sexy clothes. I always believe in true beauty, which comes from our inner selves. Beauty is a kind of radiance. It is the inner beauty that brightens your eyes, sweetens your smile and unleashes your personality.

Anyhow sis, there is a possibility that people around you are afraid of your change, thus they become quite dubious. Perhaps they need time to accept the new you. Just give them as much time as they need. Meanwhile, it’s good if you could prove to them that you are just the same old Melinda, except for you are now even better than before.

Du’a (prayer)

Keep on your prayers to The Almighty Allah. He’s the best we can go to especially when we are in need of a company. He’s the best listener. Keeping close to Allah will help you achieve serenity, and by Allah will you’ll gain confidence in your decision. Also, pray to Allah that your friends will eventually accept you.

It is also important for you to get involve with other muslim woman societies, especially those whom are in the same shoes with you. Getting around with good and supportive friends helps to strengthen yourself too. Don’t worry sis, we Muslims are one family. You can connect to other sisters and share your stories or problems across the country.  And I’m always here for you, will try to help you as much as I can. My prayers are always with you.

Hope my answer could help you in some ways. I wish you all the best and May Allah bless us, and guide ourselves in pacing our lives. 

 *photos are from

Xiet Enigma
Shah Alam

April 14, 2011

Islam bukan hanya pada nama.

Nominal muslim = muslim pada nama... Apa tu? mazhab baru ke? 
Eh, tak tak. Nominal muslim ni maksudnya muslim yang hanya pada nama je. Ayat mudahnya orang islam yang tak berapa nak praktis islam laaa... Biasanya banyak berlaku kepada orang islam yang memang lahir dalam family islam. Macam orang melayu ke? Aaaa lebih kurang laaa... Tapi ada berlaku juga kepada muallaf yang mungkin tidak mempelajari islam dan tidak mempraktis islam.

OK, so ada apa dengan istilah nominal muslim tu?

Berapa hari yang lepas, Xiet berjumpa seorang sister yang baru beberapa tahun bergelar muslimah. Pada awalnya sister ni ajak jumpa sebab nak minta Xiet menjelaskan beberapa kekusutan di hatinya tentang beberapa isu kekeliruan di dalam perihal agama. Tapi biasalah, women will be women, kalau dah jumpa tu, banyak la cerita tak tersenarai dalam minit mesyuarat telah kami bualkan =) 

Before pulang, sister tu ada cakap yang dia sangat bersyukur sebab dapat jumpa Xiet haritu kerana dapat berkongsi pendapat dan ilmu. Tapi sebenarnya, Xiet bersyukur sebab Xiet yang banyak belajar dari sister tu. Banyak sangat!

One of the thing yang I still remember yg sister tu cakap is, " Kebanyakan muslim tidak mensyukuri nikmat terbesar mereka - Islam. Mereka sering menganggap mereka sudah bagus, dan surely will enter paradise! Tapi mereka tak sedar yang kelalaian mereka kadangkala boleh menjatuhkan iman mereka, dan lebih parah boleh menjatuhkan aqidah mereka. Jika aqidah sudah tergelincir, apakah dia masih Islam, apakah dia masih selamat dan masih akan masuk syurga?"

"Mungkin kelalaian boleh menggugat aqidah. Tapi satu perkara yang lebih bahaya dan mampu menggugat aqidah adalah keegoan. Riak! Riak menjadi muslim, riak dengan keimanan sendiri, riak dengan apa yang Allah anugerahkan kepada mereka. Sedangkan mereka tidak merasai bagaimana rasanya jika mereka tidak mengenal Islam, bagaimana sukarnya untuk mencari kebenaran tersebut, bagaimana kuatnya usaha yang perlu dilakukan untuk jatuh cinta kepada agama tersebut... Mereka telah lahir dalam keluarga islam, maka apa yang perlu mereka riakkan sangat?"

"Dan mungkin kerena itulah orang2 yang macam kami, yang mengenal Islam atas hasil usaha sendiri, yang mendapat hidayah dari Allah ni, kami lebih mensyukuri nikmat ini dan begitu ingin mengenal dan memahami agama ini supaya kami dapat mempertahankan aqidah kami.agar kami dapat hidup dan mati di dalam agama ini" _Ayat ni Xiet tukar2 bagi skema sket la sbb mau masuk belog. Tapi contentnya sama (^_*)

Mari kita cek status iman dan amal kita, supaya kita sentiasa berada di dalam landasan yang betul di dalam menuju syurga abadi...
Moga2 kita semua sentiasa di bawah rahmat dan redha Allah.

P/S: Sis nanti balik Malaysia mau jumpa OK! jangan lupa sebenir nya yaaa! Hehe

April 5, 2011

Bolehke awak jadi sekuat & setabah Datin Seri Azizah?

Pada waktu ni, kes salah laku seks yg dikaitkan dgn DSAI sering menjadi paparan utama tajuk2 akhbar, blog2 dan juga forum2 samada forum bersifat ilmiah ataupun forum jalanan. Al-maklumlah pilihanraya Sarawak dah makin dekat, banyaklah isu2 publisiti murahan mula keluar satu persatu...

Entri ni bukan nak cerita pasal tuduhan kes salah laku seks tersebut, kerana Xiet bukanlah seorang yang rajin mengikuti cerita 18SX sebegini. Lagipun saya bukanlah orang yang arif untuk membincangkan hal ini. Walau bagaimanapun, isu hangat ini ada memberi tempias kepada kehidupan kami suami isteri. Oops, kami tiada kaitan samada secara langsung ataupun tak langsung terhadap video tersebut. (Habis, celah mana tempias nya?)

Begini, dah 3 kali suami bertanya soalan yang sama kepada Xiet. "Boleh ke awak jadi sekuat & setabah Datin Seri Azizah?. Tak pernah sekalipun dia berhenti menyokong suami dia." 

Pertanyaan pertama, Xiet hanya jawab "Entah la Yang," Kali kedua dia tanya Xiet dah mula rasa annoying. Kali ketiga? Mula-mula Xiet memang malas nak jawab. Tapi bila difikirkan semula pertanyaan tersebut, dan mengapa suami bertanya banyak kali (pada masa yang berlainan), mungkin bagi suami, ianya sesuatu yang penting.... Lantas Xiet pun berfikir sejenak.

Kes salah laku seks DSAI bukanlah baru kali pertama dihebahkan. Kalau difikir-fikirkan kembali, sejak DSAI keluar BN (1998), isu seks ini berasak-asak tidak putus-putus. Tak faham pula kenapa sebelum DSAI keluar BN tak pula ada tuduhan2 begini? Wallahua'lam...

Dan sebagai seorang isteri, jika suami anda dikaitan dengan isu salah laku seks yang bukan sekali, tapi berkali-kali, apakah perasaan anda? Apakah tindakan anda? 

Jangan kan kata berkali-kali, jika baru sekali suami anda dikaitkan dengan isu sebegini, apa agaknya tindakan anda? Cuba bayangkan anda dapat info mengatakan suami anda ada hubungan sulit dengan wanita lain. Cuma hubungan sulit, bukan hubungan seks secara spesifik. Agak-agak, apa perasaan dan tindakan anda terutamanya terhadap suami anda? 

Mungkin kita boleh kata ini cuma lakonan politik semata-mata. Kita tak tahu di belakang kamera dan media adakah mereka masih suami isteri yang baik.  Ye, mungkin juga! Tapi persoalannya, jika anda diletakkan di tempat yang sama, adakah anda sanggup berlakon sehingga sedemikian rupa? Bolehkah anda mengekalkan lakonan ini selama 13 tahun? Mampukah anda meletakkan kepercayaan dan sokongan yang TIDAK berbelah bagi terhadap suami tercinta? 

Xiet seorang wanita biasa. Dan juga seorang isteri. Bagi Xiet, sekuat mana pun kita, sebagai isteri, jika tiada kecintaan dan kepercayaan yang tinggi terhadap suami sendiri, adalah amat sukar untuk sentiasa berada dibelakang suami, menyokongnya dengan sepenuh hati, jiwa dan raga, walaupun terpaksa menongkah arus, terpaksa menerima tohmahan dan cacian orang sekeliling.

Suami pernah beberapa kali berkata "Kejayaan saya, bukan kerana saya seorang. Kejayaan saya adalah kerana isteri yang saya cintai menjadi tulang belakang saya; sentiasa menyokong dan mempercayai saya. Itu adalah pengorbanan paling besar yg awak telah lakukan untuk menjadi isteri saya, dan itu jugalah pembakar semangat saya untuk terus mara ke depan. Awak lah penguat saya"

Perkara begini boleh jadi kepada sesiapa sahaja. To me, and to you. Ramai orang yang terlupa akan kehidupan akhirat dan merasakan dunia ini tiada akhirnya. Ramai yang berlumba-lumba menjadi yang pertama, sehinggakan seringkali melanggar batasan agama. Mungkin kerana dengki, iri hati, dan apa sahaja alasan jahat yang ada, kita akan diuji dengan ujian yang sama, walaupun mungkin dengan jalan cerita yang berbeza....

Persoalannya, adakah kita bersedia? Adakah kita mampu? Adakah kita kuat? 

Jawapan ikhlas dari Xiet buat suami tercinta: Wallahua'lam, I don't know. I just hope that thing like this would never happen to us, and as long as you love Allah and Rasulullah, I will always love you, with all my heart & life... (love here is a verb, not a noun)

"Dan orang-orang yang beriman, lelaki dan perempuan, setengahnya menjadi penolong bagi setengahnya yang lain mereka menyuruh berbuat kebaikan, dan melarang daripada berbuat kejahatan dan mereka mendirikan sembahyang dan memberi zakat, serta taat kepada Allah dan RasulNya. Mereka itu akan diberi rahmat oleh Allah sesungguhnya Allah Maha Kuasa, lagi Maha Bijaksana." At-Taubah, 71. (Ayat ni menerangkan segala-galanya)

P/S: Entri ni dah 3 hari tertunggak kerana terasa begitu sukar untuk menterjemah apa yg dirasa dan difikir dengan kata-kata... Dan entri ini juga khas buat suami tercinta.

Xiet Enigma
5 April 2011
Shah Alam